“Life is not about waiting for the
storm to pass… it’s about learning to dance in the rain”.
This saying really summarizes my outlook on life. I use dance as a reference to deal with many things. I would tell my students from the no-longer day job that they needed to learn to dance with their demons.
I tell my kiddo’s to put on their dancing shoes when we’re working out a problem.
I say it’s time for my characters to tango meaning they need to have sex. Some days I waltz through while others I struggle to tap my foot to the beat.
The key to dancing through life is that you can never sit a song out. There are days I’m just not into the tempo. I don’t want to write. I don’t want to clean my house. I don’t want to cook dinner. Instead of pulling my fuzzy blanket over my head, I do what is called the zombie shuffle through the day. I’ve known people who have decided to ‘sit’ a song out and never rejoin the dance of life
When my kiddos were still at home my playlist was somewhat the same from day to day. The world of writing has a very unique playlist that changes A LOT. Sometimes the beat is break neck. Edits are due, a story has a deadline, and I need to write three blog post. Then there are times it’s slower than a vampire’s heartbeat – no edits, no deadlines, waiting on nothing, and only rejections – and those are the times I want to sit down. But I can’t. I need to push through – to dance.
I use this dance analogy in my writing. I love Kelly Clarkson’s song Stronger. When developing a major character, I ask myself what demons does he/she have to dance with? What hasn’t killed her but made her stronger?